Breast cancer is more than just a physical disease. It affects us at the deepest levels, both emotionally and psychosocially. While many wonderful support groups and experts in our community address these experiences, accepting one’s new body (especially without clothing) takes practice!
As women, we often surprise ourselves with our ability to rise above challenges and persevere, as remaining positive is often our only option. While strength on the surface is easy to recognized, after undergoing a mastectomy or lumpectomy, women often struggle with feeling feminine on the inside.
Many women suffer in silence when it comes to intimacy challenges after a breast cancer diagnosis, and often feel that others will discount sex as insignificant in comparison to the complexities of treatment and recovery. After radical breast surgery, our already tainted vision of ourselves can be exacerbated. This is frequently apparent in the fitting room when a woman has difficulty looking at her body in the mirror.
Women who take the time to be fit for their undergarments breathe a sigh of relief when they realize that a fitting after breast cancer is really just a bra fitting after all. While breast form solutions and necklines options are always explored, the importance of a good fit remains the focus. Simply put, if the bra fits and feels good, the breast form will too!
While some women are satisfied with surgical bras on the market, many are delighted to see that over the past five years lingerie for breast cancer survivors has blossomed. The market is full of beautiful, supportive and feminine lingerie for women post-surgery. Sports bras, lace bras, strapless bras … the wardrobe options are limitless!
A couple of examples: Our main photo above shows one of the newest fashion offerings from Anita Care, an industry pioneer in expanding options for women recovering from surgery. Another favorite (above) is the very feminine French Touch collection released earlier this year by Amoena.
Not all women will require a unique post-surgical bra, however. At our store we specialize in transforming your existing bras by adding inside pockets that will accommodate breast forms. Alternatively, we find that some softer styles like the Simone Pérèle Celeste lace wireless bra (below) are comfortable enough they can be worn by mastectomy patients with no need for added pockets.
On the breast cancer journey, women will often take more time to be “fit” for their needs. It is this investment of time that can contribute to a more beautiful wardrobe than they ever had before.
Drug effects and hormone challenges aside, a woman’s partner can play an important role in the sexual healing process. While many women joke that men really just want to see the bra on the floor, I would argue that we actually look and feel a lot sexier in lovely lingerie. Let’s not ignore the fact that when we feel sexy, we exude confidence!
This perspective supports many of us who are not comfortable completely naked.Wearing something that highlights our curves can actually add to our beauty, and pleasantly surprise our partners!
Melmira Bra & Swim Boutique is a Toronto lingerie salon. Melmira’s staff offers expert bra shopping and fitting advice to Lingerie Talk readers each month.